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*The names used for these success stories are fictitious to meet confidentiality requirements
Two sisters were placed into foster care during the summer of 2016, but were separated into different homes. Half way through their foster care, the sisters were able to be placed into the same home. The sisters thrived in their schools and had their medical/dental needs met. The foster parent and the mother started working together to attend to all the sister’s needs. The foster parent became a “mentor parent” to the mother and taught the mother consequences and reward techniques that worked with the sisters. The foster parent and mother used a team approach to parent the girls which included: telephone check-in calls, weekend visits and community outings that everyone attended. The mother worked diligently through her court goals and the sisters were returned to her just in time for Spring Break! The mother and the foster parent both convey that working together for the well-being of the sisters, helped the mother to regain custody of her girls.
“Morgan” came into one of our foster homes directly from inpatient drug and alcohol treatment at 14 years old Prior to that, she was fending for herself, barely in school and without anyone to push or encourage her. Her first few months, maybe the first year, in this foster home were rough. The foster mom was used to kids seeking out positive affirmation, hugs and wanting to stay in her home forever. This 14 year old was not like any kid that she had parented before. She was quiet, didn’t trust and was extremely guarded and angry. While her anger was understandable, it was often directed at her foster mom who was trying very hard to show her the love and commitment that a mother should. At that time, I was meeting with this child weekly and most of our time together was spent with me helping her understand her own communication style and flaws. Morgan also struggled with her grades. She had a team that met monthly to address her needs which usually included helping her communicate with her foster mom, finding out what her challenges were at school and addressing them, finding the right support group and helping her gain confidence to participate in social interactions outside of the classroom. Today, she is a happy 17.5 year old who is scheduled to graduate ON TIME with ALL A’s, she has a good group of friends and she is looking at colleges for the fall. I think what makes me the happiest when I think of how far she has come, is hearing her call her foster mom “mom” and knowing that she doesn’t love her birth mom any less and she will always love her, but she opened herself up to allow someone to love her and to believe in her. She isn’t sure yet if she will go to school locally or if she will go to school outside of the state, but when she goes off to college, she will always have a home to return to on weekends and holidays and a place to do her laundry! Thank you everyone who have been a part of her success!
The “Smith” children came into care early this past year and were placed in 2 different CFSF foster homes. Since being in care the children flourished with proper medical & dental appointments, Head Start services and stable living environments. Their paternal grandparents stepped in to become the children’s caregivers and became licensed foster parents in their home state. The grandparents flew up to WA state and the kids were transitioned to their care after 8 months of foster care. The CFSF foster parents, social worker, GAL, grandparents and the case manager worked together diligently to make the transition a positive outcome for everyone involved.
When “Ava” was born she tested positive for drugs and shortly after her birth exhibited withdraw symptoms. Around two months in age she was placed in one of CFSF’s long term foster homes after her previous placement was unable to continue to care for her. In spite of her early childhood circumstances and with the loving support of her foster family, Ava is a happy and healthy two year old with a forever family of her own!
“Paul” has been in the care of one of our amazing homes for over 7 yrs. He came to the home right before he turned 12 yrs old and was a child with a whole list of challenges that would be tough for anyone to overcome. Paul is also autistic. Paul is a very determined individual. With the help and guidance of his foster parents, he started volunteering at a local thrift store. This gave him incentive to start volunteering at other places including another thrift store and a separate retail shop. Paul then wanted to get a job and applied at a restaurant. He started working there when he was 16 yrs old (He is now 19) and still works there today. He is hoping to find other employment and continues to apply for other jobs while he maintains his current job. His foster parents even helped him open a bank account and he now has saved a considerable amount of money. Paul earned his driver’s license this past year and bought his own car with the money he has earned working. Paul also graduated from High School this past year. It’s pretty amazing to have seen Paul grow up and mature over the years. I can’t tell you how proud I am of him and what a great blessing it is to have this foster family as part of our agency. This family has done such an awesome job sticking by this young man and encouraging him along the way.
“Steve” was adopted September 2016 . Steve has been in foster care for the past thirteen years! Steve experienced significant psychological and traumatic events which left him with many unanswered questions very early in life. Steve experienced over fifteen placements, including a failed adoptions in other foster homes prior to being placed with CFSF. With Steve’s history and at his age, it could have been very easy for him to have become another negative statistic. He could have easily fallen through the cracks.
However, through much help, love & support, Steve learned skills to work through many issues to become who he is today. He is a healthy, handsome young man who is getting great grades while participating in multiple sports. He is bonded to his new family and has learned to communicate his feelings with his mom and dad. He is well liked in school, has many friends and is quite sociable. Steve is a special young man that has impacted others so much that four families contacted Child and Family Services wanting to become licensed specifically to adopt Steve! One of them, is now his forever family!
Steve is a GIANT success story! But without everyone who touched his life over the last, almost thirteen years, his story may not have had a happy ending. Much more can be told, but suffice to say; to every one of you that had a role in Steve’s life, whether big or small, you made a difference!
“Laura” was born drug exposed and premature. Her future health and development were uncertain. Laura’s foster parents were able to take her into their home after she was discharged from the hospital. Laura began to thrive and gain weight in her new home. She was loved and nurtured by her new family and was provided with everything she needed to grow. Laura has since hit every milestone and shows no sign of health or developmental issues. Today, Laura is a VERY happy and vibrant two year old. Congratulations to Laura and her family as her adoption is now official!
“Sam” was placed in one of our therapeutic foster homes back in December 2013. He came from a group home with significant behavioral concerns. Sam quickly adjusted to this home and began to thrive. He gained greater control over his behaviors, completed mental health therapy, became physically fit (previously he was overweight) and found dedication through ROTC in school. Sam has transitioned to a pre-adoptive placement where it is expected he will remain for the remainder of his childhood. What a great outcome for this young man who has overcome so much!
One of our amazing foster families was called after normal business hours to take in two young girls new to care. These children were living in horrible conditions with drugs, guns and feces laying on the floor of the home. This foster family took them in, washed their things while they slept and provided excellent care for them. Amazing people making a difference for kids! Thank You!
“Bella” was placed in one of CFSF’s long time foster homes at 3 days old, straight from the hospital. Bella’s mother tested positive for drugs at the time of her delivery. Despite the exposure she endured, today, Bella is a thriving, happy, healthy and loving little girl, with just the right amount of 2 year old attitude! This CFSF home and family are the only ones she’s ever known. She is flourishing in their care and is absolutely “at home”. Much thanks goes out to all those that have helped make this happy ending a reality for both Bella and her forever family!
“Derrik” came into the CFSF program involved in a gang and would refuse to wear the color blue. He would start fights with anyone who wore blue. After a few months he was able to give up his red t-shirt and replace it with different colors and brands-but still refused to wear blue. Derrik got involved in the family’s church, designed t-shirt logos for the church’s Pastor and did odd jobs for the neighbors. He would joke about walking at his high school graduation ceremony in jeans and a t-shirt because the school color was blue. At least he was talking about finishing school! Because of a lot of hard work and dedication by his foster parents, Derrik turned 18 no longer identifying himself as a gang member. Derrik graduated high school-ON TIME- and proudly walked in his graduation ceremony…in a blue cap and gown. He now lives with a couple friends and has three jobs using the construction skills he acquired from his foster dad.
“Charlie” is moving back home to live with his mom after being in foster care for quite some time. Charlie’s mom was not equipped to care for him with the special needs he had. Charlie’s mom was enrolled into a program that helped her get her GED and the additional education she needed in order to care for and support her child.
“Chris”, not quite two years old, was placed with one of our Foster Families late last fall. She was placed with this CFSF Foster Family in order to be in close proximity to her biological parents who immediately began participating in services they needed in order to have Chris return. This Foster mom was very supportive of the biological parents and the work they were doing to reunite with their child. She was comfortable with parents attending Chris’s doctor appointments when she had them. Chris’s biological parents worked hard to engage in services and eliminate safety barriers that prevented Chris from returning home. It was determined the biological parents had done enough to safely return Chris home with an in-home dependency in place. The only remaining barrier was that Chris’s parents needed a more appropriate car seat for her safety, but they were lacking funds to immediately buy one. At the FTDM, these amazing foster parents volunteered to buy Chris a new car seat as part of her Christmas gift so that she could spend her Christmas with her mom and dad. Chris was returned home yesterday after only a couple of months in foster care. CFSF is so blessed to have foster parents who love these kids and want the very best for them!
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